I took Papaya to the Aquarium in Baltimore, MD with friends
(www.aqua.org) AND got fitted for my new Invisalign Braces.
It was a good day.
It is still a good day.
[b]Adventure Dad is telling me why kids are so smart;[/b]
“Babies are in the moment people”
He sees Papaya thinking “If I do something cute, maybe I’ll get my
way….oh no, Dad is mad, I must fight it with the one cute look I
know works.”
We (adults) do it all wrong he says, by thinking too much about the
future instead of manipulating our current situation.
How many times in a give and take conversation, are you actually
listening with your full focus, and how much more valuable would that
be? When I do, how much more powerful am I? Okay, powerful is a big
word, let’s use capable.
Its why we enjoy things like skiing, you have to think about only
that and right in that moment at all times. This is why things like
racquetball and skiing are great stress releasers.
He also thinks he should be nicer to me when we are arguing, using
the Papaya cute-look technique rather than the Adventure Dad cranky-look
technique which seems to anger his beloved wife.
But at the same time…what if we are not living in the moment? What
are we doing with that time? What allows humans to rise above the
rest of the animals? See the future, and plan to make it different.
The more clearly we do it - the better of we will be. But that is
what we are doing when we are not listening while our significant
other talks? Are you envisioning the future, or something else,
daydreaming with our mental time. “If only I were pouring beers at a
local pub…..my life would be so much better if I were mentally
disconnected from this thing and doing something I think would make
me happy.” You think as humans we’d be more cognizant of what we
were doing with our cognitive time, it’s the one thing we can’t get
back in the world. I would say that the vast majority of us are in
cognitive idle, it’s the mental couch potato equivalent.
Papaya represents all that is good, they are good at living in the
moment, they are like clay - you mold them with love.
And to finish off our deep thoughts - what would we do without
Craisins?
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He also thinks he should be nicer to me when we are arguing…
You should definitely encourage him in this matter! “Yes dear, that’s exactly right” hehe
“He also thinks he should be nicer to me when we are arguing, using
the Maya cute-look technique rather than the Travis cranky-look
technique which seems to anger his beloved wife.”
Rather than “be nicer” or using a “cute-look technique”, how about paying attention to what is being said and honestly addressing the issue at hand! In many arguments the underlying issue may be hard to discern, but it’s worth figuring out!
Being nice should come naturally — why would you want to purposely hurt the one you love [now there’s an issue!]. It might be that deflecting attention is a way to skirt around the real issue.
Learning to fight a fair fight in a long-term relationship is a worthy goal.
-In for the long run (PattyR)
I’m afraid, and it’s a scary thought, we’d be stuck eating raisins.
raisins, or dried blueberries.
It would be so sad.