Archive for January, 2007

Just like my Tutu

As Papaya lay down in my arms to fall asleep last night (in her own bed where I leave her in la la land once she’s fallen there) I was enamored with her as sometimes happens. Her eyes closed as she pretends to “pleep” in preperation for the real thing. I guess it’s just that article I read by Sabrina making me feel very in love with my child and all parents regardless of how they raise thier children (except the actual bad mothers in her article).

So I whispered to Papaya just like my own Tutu once did to me:

“I love you up to the sky and down again,
around the world and back again,
and more than time will ever tell.”

I added “I love you sweet Papaya, rest tonight and I will enjoy seeing you in the morning.”

After each pause Papaya whispered back at least one word to me from the previous sentence.

“up sky, back, more, love, morning”

My heart grew so large I’m not sure if I have any other internal organs left.

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My baby girl is two.. by Papaya Mom on May 22nd, 2007
Okay, it was a few months ago, but I finally had her two year portraits taken and it was SOOOOO worth the wait.

Abduction by Papaya Mom on February 8th, 2007
Someone, I assume an alien, has taken my friendly loveable toddler and replaced her with a mean spirited crying mess.

Ellipse by Papaya Mom on December 28th, 2006
We took Papaya to the National Mall today, the Ellipse portion, to see the National Christmas Tree.

Saturday by Papaya Mom on February 16th, 2008
It is six a.

IF I were in charge of another child.. by Papaya Mom on May 27th, 2007
since I won't be having any more, I'll have to say "in charge of.

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Sabrina knows her shit.

Good vs. Bad Mothering

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Life has changed by Papaya Mom on January 1st, 2008
in wonderful ways, but my free time is often quite different than it was six months ago.

Why single moms don't blog by Papaya Mom on October 27th, 2007
(note: I in no way intend to offend anyone who is a rockin' single mom blogger) sleep.

In my home by Papaya Mom on March 13th, 2007
Not getting a vasectomy?It's maintaining critical family capability for chup building - we don't want the industrial base (ability to produce more) to erode to the point that if in time of a family emergency we needed another chup - and would have to source out to another family because we've lost the ability to make more chups.

Ten more reasons by Papaya Mom on February 25th, 2007
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New York by Papaya Mom on June 18th, 2007
I'm in NY.

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Jumping in with both feet.

We did it. We made the choice. 10 more years in the Navy.

Whew!

It was a grown up moment where we accepted the downfalls (time apart, risk, moving) and celebrated the upsides (retirement, medical, adventure). Adventure Dad will be signing on for four, since that’s the term they ask for - but at that point we’ll be at 16 and we might as well move towards 20/22 for retirement purposes.

I’m satisfied that I know where we are going in life, though I won’t know where the Navy will send us. I know our path and I can embrace it with activities like COMPASS that I really feel better the Navy community of which I am now a long-term member.

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Like a fish out of water by Papaya Mom on October 13th, 2007
It's how I felt - without internet (on MY beloved Macintosh computer - I had access via my 'rents PC but PCs hate me and it's just not the same) for what I think may have been an eternity but Adventure Dad assures me was only a few weeks.

New Motherhood by Papaya Mom on April 4th, 2005
There are no words for how WONDERFUL, BUSY, TIRING, AMAZING, GROWING, SPECIAL, CONFUSING and so much more the last few months have been.

Dinner Date by Papaya Mom on August 30th, 2007
It's not that Adventure Dad and I don't like each other's company - it is just that we've been married for a while now and sometimes we run out of things to talk about.

In my home by Papaya Mom on March 13th, 2007
Not getting a vasectomy?It's maintaining critical family capability for chup building - we don't want the industrial base (ability to produce more) to erode to the point that if in time of a family emergency we needed another chup - and would have to source out to another family because we've lost the ability to make more chups.

Kicking those Duty Day blues. by Papaya Mom on April 23rd, 2005
Ah, Adventure Dad' last duty day of this refit.

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Not enough produce?

The Well Fed Network recently had an article on advances in Nutrition and part of it popped out at me:

“If Americans doubled their consumption of produce (which we would have to do in order to eat as much as we should be eating), there would not be enough vegetables to go around. More government funding for fruits and vegetables instead of big row crops like wheat, corn, soy and rice would help the problem.”

After reading The Omnivore’s Dilemma that traces back a huge percentage of our food to corn thanks to the huge subsidies, etc. in it…I’m not too amazed. Sad, but not amazed. I’d love to see Govt. subsidies away from corn and onto a variety of more nutrient-rich food, but is it possible? That lobby that created the corn subsidies is not about to lay back and give up the extra funds.

So my first order of business when I’m magically in charge? Subsidies for more Clementines. Yep, I eat at least two of those yummy sweeties per day.

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Anti War DOES NOT mean Anti Soldier by Papaya Mom on January 20th, 2007
Yet again, I've got an eMail foreword that implies because I don't support our government's current foreign war/policy that I am somehow against the troops.

Not a solution. by Papaya Mom on January 17th, 2008
A horrible crime happened in Hawaii today.

I thought this was why by Papaya Mom on February 20th, 2007
most of us voted to put Democrats back in power in congress!?!?!Needless to say, I've written a letter.

Nestle Boycott Week by Papaya Mom on July 2nd, 2007
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Super Tuesday by Papaya Mom on February 5th, 2008
A song to keep you entertained today as we watch it all come through.

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Issues

I am bombastic in my blogging - I often write as if I were shooting from the hip without thought for possible hurt feelings. Proclaiming my confidence in ideas to the world can come off as brash, bitchy, and all sorts of other things. I’m not sure if I mean it to or not. I certainly don’t like the feeling of having family members upset at me (Caleb, Candi, possibly others) and at the same time I do hold certain beliefs of mine to be true for me and don’t plan to change them.

So, please read this blog with the confidence that I care about you personally (those of you I know, I doubt I have readers I do not know, but heck, maybe) and although we may disagree it will rarely limit my respect for you as a person with your own valuable opinions. Don’t hate me, please, because I don’t hate you.

In other news this has made me realize I’ll never support myself financially via a blog - I’m just not that kind of blogger. For example Heather makes her living (and pays a mortgage) via her blog, but we are different. She keeps with enough of a theme - her family, her dog, the internet, Mormon humor, etc. - that her blog is like an ongoing novel, entertainment that people enjoy. Going from Papaya’s birthday to my thoughts on the Death Penalty, just not going to win me a legion of readers who won’t know when clicking on my blog if they are going to be amused or offended. I just don’t think risk like that sells.

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Think the Gelato she ate might have sugar? by Papaya Mom on March 3rd, 2008
They (mermaids) were hiding in the seaweed I remember that - when I was a dragon I could fly over the ocean.

Ten more reasons by Papaya Mom on February 25th, 2007
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The week ahead... by Papaya Mom on April 30th, 2007
includes cooking great meals (I hope).

Like saying you've never had the flu by Papaya Mom on October 28th, 2007
That is what happens when a tired Mommy blogs about having no time to blog.

A pretty Friday in Poulsbo by Papaya Mom on April 29th, 2005
As I sit down to write Papaya is taking her morning nap.

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Birthday Pictures!

Tasting my Cupcake
So THIS is how you eat cupcakes!

Friends Forever
MILFs and 2 year olds.

Birthday Girls
Best Birthday Friends.

Food
And of course, the food!

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Train Table too? by Papaya Mom on December 29th, 2006
And to think.

She's got 'tude by Papaya Mom on June 13th, 2006
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The Kiss by Papaya Mom on December 12th, 2006
My brother Pono, and his Tahitian girlfriend who speaks a bunch of languages named Aute, are in Love/Lust/Love.

Wordless Wednesday by Papaya Mom on April 2nd, 2008
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Taputapuatea Marai by Papaya Mom on August 25th, 2007
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Anti War DOES NOT mean Anti Soldier

Yet again, I’ve got an eMail foreword that implies because I don’t support our government’s current foreign war/policy that I am somehow against the troops. I’ve also got the ones that imply being Liberal or having these convictions make me unpatriotic. It’s not true and it makes me angry.

Here is the post (with my commentary in bold):

It may take you two minutes to read this, but if you do not take the time to read this you are one of the people this post is talking about. Wow, you must be Psychic to be able to determine my moral position based on my online reading habits.

You stay up for 16 hours

He stays up for days on end.
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You take a warm shower to help you wake up.

He goes days or weeks without running water.
__________________________

You complain of a “headache”, and call in sick. No sick days as a SAHM.

He gets shot at as others are hit, and keeps moving forward.
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You put on your anti war/don’t support the troops shirt, and go meet up with your friends.

He still fights for your right to wear that shirt. Yes, and I’m going to that meet-up to take him out of a situation that I believe is wrong and a risk to his life that is NOT worth it, his life is worth more than oil.
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You make sure you’re cell phone is in your pocket.

He clutches the cross hanging on his chain next to his dog tags.
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You talk trash about your “buddies” that aren’t with you. huh?

He knows he may not see some of his buddies again. And America will be worse off without these men and women who have died fighting an unjust war, as will the Iraqi’s be worse off for the many they have lost.
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You walk down the beach, staring at all the pretty girls. How did you know?

He patrols the streets, searching for insurgents and terrorists. And in being there creates a more hostile environment, is risking his own life to protect those in a country where 80%+ of the population does not want his “help”.
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You complain about how hot it is.

He wears his heavy gear, not daring to take off his helmet to wipe his brow. I bet he complains about the heat too.
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You go out to lunch, and complain because the restaurant got your order wrong.

He doesn’t get to eat today. So we are not feeding our soldiers in Iraq? Investigate what Haliburton is doing with all that money then dammit.
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Your maid makes your bed and washes your clothes. Dude, she must have lost the key to my house.

He wears the same things for weeks, but makes sure his weapons are clean. I wear the same things a lot.
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You go to the mall and get your hair redone.

He doesn’t have time to brush his teeth today.
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You’re angry because your class ran 5 minutes over. Can’t say I relate to this one.

He’s told he will be held over an extra 2 months. For a surge that is too late, remember when the Generals were calling for more troops and were fired over it?
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You call your girlfriend and set a date for tonight.

He waits for the mail to see if there is a letter from home.
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You hug and kiss your girlfriend, like you do everyday.

He holds his letter close and smells his love’s perfume.
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You roll your eyes as a baby cries. Do not.

He gets a letter with pictures of his new child, and wonders if they’ll ever meet.
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You criticize your government, and say that war never solves anything. It does not, just like hitting a child never teaches them not to hit.

He sees the innocent tortured and killed by their own people and remembers why he is fighting. He’s fighting for oil, not the people who are oppressed not only by the civil war we created with the power vacuum. Not because he wants to, but because he’s a good soldier who follows orders that come down from the Greedier in Chief.
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You hear the jokes about the war, and make fun of men like him. Really? I make fun of GIs? Who even does that? No one I’ve ever known….even the biggest Liberals.

He hears the gunfire, bombs and screams of the wounded.
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You see only what the media wants you to see. What do they want us to see? I read multiple multinational News Sources and make my own determinations - I’m no slave to Bush, I mean Fox, News.

He sees the broken bodies lying around him.
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You are asked to go to the store by your parents. You don’t. Once again, I’m not a kid.

He does exactly what he is told. And may die in an unnecessary war because of his honor.
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You stay at home and watch TV. Does Noggin Count?

He takes whatever time he is given to call, write home, sleep, and eat.
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You crawl into your soft bed, with down pillows, and get comfortable. I like firm pillows.

He tries to sleep but gets woken by mortars and helicopters all night long. I bet he’s like Adventure Dad is underway - can sleep through anything from pure exhaustion.
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You sit there and judge him, saying the world is probably a worse place because of men like him. Nope, because of men like his Commander in Chief.

If only there were more men like him Bush would be sending them off to Iran too, and maybe a few in N. Korea but definitely none in Darfur where there is a Genocide - that’s much less important than oil and old scores to settle with a man who is already dead.
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If you support your troops, repost this with a “HOORAH!”

If you don’t support your troops well, then don’t repost, it’s not like you know the men and women that are dying to preserve your right… Actually, I do know them and support them - NOT THE WAR but certainly the men and women who are fighting it. They are more reason than any to get out there and do something, our nation’s young people killed in an unjust war - a generation of children who will grow up without fathers and some without mothers. Come ON.

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Baking by Papaya Mom on February 17th, 2007
Oh, how I love to bake.

Where was I today? by Papaya Mom on January 12th, 2008
At the .

I thought this was why by Papaya Mom on February 20th, 2007
most of us voted to put Democrats back in power in congress!?!?!Needless to say, I've written a letter.

Link Fun by Papaya Mom on July 29th, 2007
A third of .

Not a solution. by Papaya Mom on January 17th, 2008
A horrible crime happened in Hawaii today.

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How time has flown

Two years ago today I was in labor, at home in my hot tub with Adventure Dad. Today I talk to my daughter and she speaks back - in grown up words! She’s creative and funny and playful and interesting and….so much. She has made Adventure Dad and I better people, more caring about her and the world in which she lives. Our partnership has become stronger, our commitment to her never wavering.

Tomorrow we’ll celebrate, and I’ll look at her with adoration knowing that the next year is going to be even better with her in our lives.

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Um, uh, please stop? by Papaya Mom on September 6th, 2007
Maybe it's that Papaya woke up last night crying and proceeded to spend a few hours throwing up every twenty minutes or so, but today I'm a bit cranky.

Easter by Papaya Mom on March 23rd, 2008
Is a totally fun holiday with outdoor play and candy - what more could a girl want? .

Messy Three by Papaya Mom on January 20th, 2008
Today is Papaya's third birthday and we threw a "messy" birthday party for over thirty children and parents.

She by Papaya Mom on April 18th, 2007
talks like a woman sometimes - her sentences are growing by leaps and bounds.

New Motherhood by Papaya Mom on April 4th, 2005
There are no words for how WONDERFUL, BUSY, TIRING, AMAZING, GROWING, SPECIAL, CONFUSING and so much more the last few months have been.

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Spanking

For once, I am proud to agree with AAP.

I’m SO SICK of the “I turned out all right” excuse. Um, just because you don’t remember the emotional turmoil caused by being hit by your parents does NOT mean it did not affect your childhood. I had a family member tell me he lived in constant fear of being spanked in the same conversation where he planned to hit his own children? Illogical arguments like this drive me crazy. It is incredibly sad that one has to make these arguments in retrospect to protect themselves from the emotional realization that someone they loved intentionally hurt them. Sure, you might have turned out “all right” but how much more emotionally and physically healthy could you have been?

Gershoff Study on the effects of hitting a child - seen as part of the continuum of physical abuse.

And heck, if that does not work for you, how about hitting your children setting them up for higher levels of heart disease as an adult? Don’t believe it? Click here. Studies over the last 60 years have shown a connection between corporal punishment and a host of ills, not limited to but including; antisocial behavior, increased risk of child abuse and spousal abuse, increased risk of child aggression and adult aggression, decreased child mental health and decreased adult mental health. Who would wish that on their child for the sake of an obedient child? A child that can be taught morals and obedience with parental leadership, involvement, and consistency!

Oh, and the Bible told you to do it, think again. Many spankers often quote Old Testament scriptures to prove their point. Those who subscribe to this argument misunderstand and misuse scripture. A similar method of selective reading could just as well be used to justify slavery, suppression of women, polygamy, incest and infanticide. (Thomas E. Sagendorf, retired Methodist Minister)

I know all forms of discipline can be misused - but spanking is just something that is a misuse of parental privilege from the start.

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That voice by Papaya Mom on July 21st, 2007
“"There Is A Voice Inside Of You That Whispers All Day Long, "I Feel That This Is Right For Me, I Know That This Is Wrong.

A wonderful exchange by Papaya Mom on September 1st, 2007
A couple on.

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Travel

we are driving today….10 hours north (including stops) to Beaver Falls, Adventure Dad’ hometown. His Grandfather (Martin Hirschy) passed this week and we are attending a funeral, only a few months ago we made the same trek for the funeral of his wife.

Time passes and now my Mother in Law is part of the “Oldest Generation” on her side of the family. Adventure Dad has only one set of grandparents left, I’ve got none at all.

The wheels of time grind on.

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Rest in Peace by Papaya Mom on December 30th, 2006
I'm so sad today as I've learned through Adventure Dad of the deaths of two American Submariners who were swept overboard as they attempted to offload a harbor pilot coming out of the UK.

Not a solution. by Papaya Mom on January 17th, 2008
A horrible crime happened in Hawaii today.

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